WEEK 4: Heartfelt Love
July 14, 2016
The Ten Tools of Fatherhood: The First Six Tools
It is through commitment, fidelity, grace and tenderness that you show your family – in word and in deed – how much you love them (and therefore how valuable they are to you … and to God). (p. 111)
- Do you agree or disagree that you can’t show love toward your family without commitment (p.112)? Explain?
- What roles do feelings play in being a committed husband and father? How do will and attitude influence commitment?
- What are ways you can set a tone of fidelity in your family? (Consider, for example, how you talk about your wife to others, how you treat her in public and at home, and how you represent your commitment to your wife in front of your children?)
- What patterns of speech or action do you need to change to show greater fidelity to your wife?
Read Ephesians 2:4-6 – “But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we are dead in transgression – it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.”
Grace – undeserved mercy and forgiveness (the way God treats us in Christ) – is love in action. What has been your usual response toward family members will disappoint you?
- The way God responds to you when you mess up is how you need to treat others. What do you need to work on most in the “grace” department?
Optional Additional Questions For Week 4:
- Why do most men struggle to show their nurturing, gentle, vulnerable side?
- “[Tenderness] is one of the elements of every man’s soul that helps make him fully human and fully alive” (p. 123). Do you agree or disagree with this statement? Explain.
- Which area – commitment, dependability, grace or tenderness – do you need to work on the most? Review the questions in the “Put It To Work Guide” for this area on pages 127-132. How can you begin to incorporate one of these suggestions today?
- Where are you growing the most in sharing heartfelt love with your family?